When Abortion Becomes Personal

by Natalie WymanFamily Foundation Intern/Lobbyist

Have you seen this heart-wrenching video?

The video does an incredible job of pointing out that abortion cuts out a child’s future, before they even leave the womb. It seems that when you contemplate abortion in such a personal way, it becomes harder and harder to argue that a mother’s convenience should take precedence over the life of her innocent, unborn child.

I was recently hanging out with one of my friends who is extremely liberal. The main reason he is liberal is because he’s gay and therefore feels compelled to support all Democratic, liberal policy positions. However, one time he and I were talking, and he revealed to me that he sometimes struggles with supporting abortion. As a liberal, he feels like supporting gay marriage and abortion is a package deal; however, as the son of a young, struggling, single mom, he understands how close he was to being aborted.

He began to explain to me that when his mom found out she was pregnant, she wasn’t sure if she could keep the baby. Her boyfriend had abandoned her; she was impoverished, alone, and unsure of how she would care for a child. Her pregnancy was certainly inconvenient, but she decided to continue with the pregnancy, choosing to raise her new baby herself.

My friend said when he discovered this about his mother, the reality of abortion finally hit him. No matter how far along in development, he had been that fetus.

Something I find extremely interesting is the fact that when the issue of abortion gets personal, even the most liberal people start wavering on their pro-choice beliefs.

This is because making the issue personal forces you to acknowledge the personhood of the unborn child

Let’s get personal again. My own mother would have been aborted had she been born after Roe v. Wade in 1973. Her birth-mother got pregnant in college, which was incredibly unexpected and inconvenient. However, my mom’s birth-mother decided to go through with the pregnancy, choosing adoption. This gave my mom the opportunity to be adopted by an extraordinarily loving missionary couple and spend her childhood in Africa. I’m personally extremely thankful that my mom’s birth-mother decided against abortion - I owe my very existence to that decision.

Here’s the deal: you can tell yourself all you want that a woman should have full control over her body because the fetus is not yet its own human being with its own rights. But the moment you discover you were almost aborted, it becomes nearly impossible to argue that a mother should have the right to take away the life of her child.

Of course, not everyone has a personal story like the two that I described here, but put yourself in those shoes and just contemplate how you would feel in that situation:

What would you have wanted your mother to choose?