Three years ago today my community was torn apart, the ideology of sexual identity was enshrined by the Supreme Court, and lives were ruined as restraint was cast off.

Obergefell is the Supreme Court opinion which was handed down by five of the nine Justices. Those five imposed their view of marriage on the rest of the nation.

I was in D.C. when it happened.

I stood up for marriage and spoke with several rainbow-clad activists about marriage. They didn’t want to hear about the social harm this decision would bring about.

I stood up against the radical social experiment that was being pushed on our society by the Supreme Court.

I stood up to protect our society from the harm that turning the law of marriage upside down would bring.

Here are some of the consequences of Obergefell which I saw coming even before the case was decided:

1.       private individuals are being compelled to celebrate events they don’t agree with;

2.       adoption agencies can no longer serve their communities because of their position on same-sex marriage;

3.       pastors are facing state scrutiny and pressure for preaching about same-sex marriage.

There was another major consequence of Obergefell which I didn’t see coming. That is the number of personal friends I have who were prompted to change their lives by this decision.

It was a few days after Obergefell that my friend posted a blog declaring himself free from sexual norms. “I have always been gay,” my friend said, taking me by surprise.

The Supreme Court had ruled that “being gay” is part of our reality. Five members of the Court decided that there is something fundamentally different between men who are attracted to men and men who are attracted to women.

My friend embraced that difference as part of his identity, divorced his wife, and is searching for love in same-sex sexual encounters and romantic relationships.

My heart broke for him and his wife, and my heart is still breaking. I still don’t agree with the idea that he is somehow different from other men.

“You just hate gay people!” many of my friends on Facebook tell me because of my public opposition to the Obergefell decision. Again, they are following the lead of the five members of the Court who said that any opposition to same-sex marriage was based on “animus” or hatred.

The five Justices of the Supreme Court used their authority to give my friends permission to behave this way.

My friend agreed with the opinion of the Court and divorced his wife. Since he is “gay,” he doesn’t see how he could live any other way.

Social media users agreed with the opinion of the Court and told me that I am just a hateful bigot. Since all opposition is based on animus, hate must be overflowing out of my heart.

Obergefell split my community apart.