Privacy for Me But Not for TheeApr 27, 2016
To the secular left, the right to privacy has always been sacrosanct.
Remember, it is the right to privacy on which the “right to abortion” rests.
It is the right to privacy on which “crimes against nature” laws were overturned by the Supreme Court, a decision on which the “right to same-sex marriage” rests.
And, it is the ACLU that has been at the forefront of fighting government over reach in looking at our communications data without a court order.
Apparently, however, the right to privacy has met its match.
The bathroom door.
Suddenly, a right that was heretofore beyond limit has, well, limitations. A right used to justify the taking of millions of unborn lives, used to justify the redefining of a relationship that is un-redefinable, is unceremoniously flushed.
Now, notice, there are no privacy limitations for the secular left, of course, but there are most certainly limitations for you. Overnight, the very idea that you might want to use a restroom, locker room or shower without someone of the opposite sex hovering around is irrational, hateful and dangerous. You wanting to exercise your right to privacy might cause someone to feel bad, so it’s jettisoned.
A privacy right to kill unborn children is limitless, but privacy for those who are living exists only to redefine cultural norms out of existence. Only a culture that has no recognition of the value of human life and transcendent truth could possibly come to that conclusion.
When I was a kid, I was the good girl type. Until one day, I got busted in class passing notes with cuss/crass words on them back and forth with a boy. Candidly, I didn’t know what the words he used meant… but he was cute.
When I got a little older, I knew if I said one of those “bad” words, I was doing something rebellious. Sometimes my friends and I would bust them out just to feel grown up. They were “adult words” but truth be told, they weren’t even words the adults around me used. The adults in my world had nothing to prove. The adults in my world had wide vocabularies and class. They could fully express themselves and talk about adult subject matter and still maintain refinement.
The thing about vulgarity is that for most people, the novelty wears off when we grow up. The use of these words proves nothing except possibly that we lack the creativity and class to have conversations of substance and meaning.
I fear that much the same principle applied to those that attended the misnamed “March for Women.” Given everyone appeared to be angry for different reasons and the march itself had no centralized purpose, it left a void that vulgarity filled. Sign after sign used words and images that should make us cringe. Rather than symbolizing some liberation of women, it should embarrass us. Does it represent our gender to be unable to express our specific, legitimate concerns with this administration with civility? I get that our new President hasn’t exactly set a high bar in this arena. I just find it odd that those that dislike him so much gladly follow him into the gutter.
Rather than organizing an anti-Trump rally, organizers tried to make it the summation of what it is to be a woman. The only problem with that plan is that in today’s gender-confused society, it’s very hard to describe what it is that makes one a woman. If visuals in D.C. yesterday are any explanation, womanhood comes down to the existence of a uterus and the ability to kill the next generation of girls. This left the march with conflicting messages because on the one hand, it is the uterus that defines “womanhood,” but on the other hand, even a uterus doesn’t guarantee your exclusive stake on a women’s locker room or shower room.
Ultimately, this left a march celebrating the taking of human life, sporting Cecil Richards as Grand Marshall. Pro-life women knew this all along because we were shut out of the march, even though we have uteruses too.
Organizers and attendees alike were thrilled with the turnout but I suspect, deep inside, they just wish the majority of white women had turned out for Hillary, not Trump in November. Because it is in fact women, defined somehow, that handed Trump the Presidency in the first place.
Driving by the local abortion center at 8 am yesterday, I noticed the parking lot was packed. My first thought was, “how sad.” My second thought was, “So that’s what all these folks decided to do with their holiday?” And then it hit me. This holiday? Today? On Martin Luther King Jr. day, the abortion center is packed.
Even if our nation somehow overcomes all the other horrific racial divides and injustices that still exist, even someday should Black Lives Matters have no unmet objective, as long as abortion on demand continues, King’s dream will continue to be just a dream, an unrealized potential. The dream he had was not to see all these women ending the lives of their unborn.
King’s Dream was that our society would recognize the inherent dignity and worth of every human being, regardless of race.
Abortion is the exact opposite. Abortion, preying more aggressively in the minority communities, whispers to mothers that their child does not have worth. Abortion tells mothers that they are not worthy of the support their families and communities could give them during their pregnancy and later as a single mom. Abortion tells men that they don’t have what it takes to support their offspring.
My feminist friends attempt to downplay the beliefs of Planned Parenthood’s founder Margaret Sanger, while applauding Planned Parenthood; however, its origins and continuing disproportionate impact on minorities can not be overlooked. Dr. Alveda King, niece of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., and Director of African American Outreach for Priests for Life, has been quoted saying “Sanger was an elitist, racist advocate of limiting, and even eradicating, those she deemed unworthy of life. She wrote of ‘weeding out the unfit,’ of preventing the birth of defectives or those who will become defective.” While no longer the stated mission of the organization, today, in the black community, there are still approximately 483 abortions for every 1000 live births.
So, on MLK day, like each day I see cars in the parking lot of the abortion center, I pray:
Lord, let each woman parked here get a glimpse of someone, a friend, a family member, a faith leader, who could help support her in her time of crisis.
Lord, let the fathers of these children rise up and tell these moms they will be there for this new family.
Lord, may these mothers sense the beauty and potential encapsulated in the life they carry.
Lord, grant each woman the moment of courage they need to stop a plan in motion they will regret.
Lord, don’t let abortion continue to devastate the black community.
The Interconnectedness of Social Issues
The Interconnectedness of Social Issues
Have you ever paused to think about just how interconnected our social issues really are? Perhaps you’ve recognized that whether it’s issues involving life, marriage, parental authority, religious liberty, poverty or general morality, nearly every social ill we face today seems to flow naturally from one fatal tendency of man; that is, the tendency to exercise our sexual desires outside of the bounds prescribed by the One who made us. Without exception, the moment we do this, things begin to go awry.
You don’t have to be a religious person to recognize both the personal and societal harms that result from unrestrained sexual behavior. Its destruction lies everywhere and affects everyone, and all of us can see its negative impacts (abuse, rape, broken families, fatherlessness, betrayal, addiction, trauma, abortion, etc.). We may like to indulge our appetites for certain inclinations, but we never like the bitter consequences that follow. And even while much of what’s happening in our culture today is little more than our attempt to avoid these consequences (e.g. abortion, government subsidized contraception, special legal protections for sexual behavior, suppression of contrary religious viewpoints, etc.), the damage is inescapable.
In my work at The Family Foundation, I’ve become acutely aware of the interconnectivity of issues and how one’s view on human sexuality lies at the heart of most every issue we encounter. (Our five core values are Life, Marriage, Parental Authority, Religious Liberty, and Constitutional Government)
Consider just a few of these connections. Sex before marriage results in unintended pregnancies, which often lead to abortions, the majority of which are sought by younger unmarried women. Meanwhile, sex before marriage disincentivizes marriage, enabling individuals to enjoy a primary benefit of marriage without the corresponding responsibilities of commitment, fidelity, and financial support. This, among other things, leads to fatherlessness and a loss over time of what it means to be a father. Children who grow up without a father figure active in their lives are significantly more likely to end up in prison and impoverished. Children born to unmarried parents suffer the lack of security and stability that comes with the marriage bond.
Sexual relationships other than a married, monogamous man and woman dilute the understanding of the importance of marriage, distort the ideal standard for healthy human relationships, and destroy marriages and families. Adultery in marriage leads to insecurity, distrust and betrayal, often culminating in divorce. Divorce leads to at least a million other complications which need no extrapolation, but especially for the children of that union. Same-sex civil relationships purposefully deprive children the ability to have both a mother and a father, which every child deserves whenever possible. Growing up without a mother or a father impacts a person negatively in deep and profound ways which manifest themselves in many other areas.
Most of the threats to religious liberty in our culture today have been the direct result of the formal elevation of homosexuality or of a person’s subjective identification as something other than their biological sex. Whether it’s declining to participate in a same-sex “wedding” ceremony, the hiring of employees whose beliefs and life choices are consistent with the organization’s mission, maintaining separation among males and females in areas of bodily exposure, objecting to paying for others’ contraception drugs or devices, or resisting government coercion to perform an abortion or “sex change” operation (just to name a few), every one of these scenarios has been made a heresy or a crime as a direct outgrowth of this same source. And each time, religious freedom comes under direct attack.
Many of the issues involving parental authority confirm this same narrative. Whether it’s parents’ ability to be informed of and/or object to sexually explicit instructional materials for their children while in school, parents’ right to opt out of government-sponsored sex education, or parental notification before their child has an abortion or receives birth control drugs, unhealthy views about sex continue to threaten parental rights.
The connections are endless, I assure you. Yet for all of the problems we inherit as a result of our own or others’ unhealthy sexual behaviors, the good news is that we already know the solution.
It’s a simple yet profound formula: Preserve sex for a life-long monogamous marriage.
That’s the solution. And from it flows strong nuclear families, with a husband and wife, bearing (or adopting) and raising children in a loving stable home with a mom and a dad. If we’re smart and we really want to fix our problems, we will not reduce this concept to a “Leave it to Beaver” episode of days gone by. I challenge anyone to come up with a better idea. There aren’t any.
So then if that’s the case, why aren’t so many of us doing it? Well probably, among other reasons, because it’s hard. It takes a lot of work. And it compels us to not think of ourselves first, but to put other’s needs and desires ahead of our own. And yet as we are witnessing today and will continue to see in more glaring ways, the alternatives have infinitely more drawbacks and prove much harder in the end. And unlike our formula, they were not designed for human flourishing – which is what we’re all really striving for.
At The Family Foundation, our heart is for free people to flourish and prosper, and to live the healthiest and most fulfilling life they can live. So we have chosen to promote and protect the family. We have recognized that if we want to restore a broken culture and to maintain our freedom, we must restore the traditional nuclear family. There simply is no other way. And that’s good news for everyone.